Word of the Year 2026: Follow-Through (with Bible Verses!)

24 Friday Apr 2026

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It amazes me that another year has come and gone. In so many ways, I feel like 2025 was a year of rebuilding and ramping up. Lots of projects started, lots of progress made, but this year I want to finish some things–I want to follow through on them.

Follow Through v. Follow-Through

Here’s a quick grammar lesson:

We write follow through (vb. two words, no hyphen) when referring to the action of working to completion or finishing a swing.

We write follow-through (n. with a hyphen) when referring to the task itself, referring to our stage of completion on that project or to the part of the swing that happens after hitting the ball.

(Yes, I had to look that up before writing this article. You’re welcome.)

follow through softball 2026 word of the year goals bible verses — Yes, this is a photo of me. 2003 Texas AAAAA State Championship Game. We won.

I grew up playing fastpitch softball, from rec league through travel ball and from high school into college, even having the opportunity to play against the 2004 US Olympic team, manning third base opposite my childhood hero Lisa Fernandez. So you could say that I know the importance of follow-through, both in the swing itself and in deliberate practice toward a goal.

But adult life provides a greater amount of variability and distractions than did my school-and-sports focused youth. Homemaking and homeschooling in particular are vocations that involve wearing many hats. Add to those hats a few exploits beyond your front door and you’ve got a recipe for burnout if you’re not careful. Or if not burnout, at least a dizzying amount of proverbial plates spinning, balls in the air… you get the idea.

When it comes to a ball in the air, I happen to know that follow-through can make the difference between a solid hit to the outfield or a mere bunt. To balk at the end of a swing is to strip all previous effort of its power. My job isn’t to merely keep endlessly juggling. Getting a ball rolling or up in the air is great. Keeping it moving is even better. But at some point I’d really like to knock one out of the park.

This requires the very thing that I struggle to do at times. It requires decisive follow-through.

Life can go in any number of directions, but it can’t go in all of them. So at some point, I have to choose to focus on something and see it through to the end.

Looking Back, Bringing Forward, Following Through

Last year, my word of the year was Stability. I began 2025 with a knee injury, and it’s taken most of the past year to recover strength and stability in my knees.

I also focused on basic routines, my husband and I revamped our financial management system, and I had to say “no” to at least one amazing opportunity because it would have been the straw that broke this camel’s back (when taking extra time out of your schedule to calculate whether or not you can take on a new responsibility triggers an autoimmune flare-up, you know it’s time to say “no”).

So, what did I have in mind when I chose follow-through as my 2026 word of the year? What balls do I have in the air that I’d like to hit hard rather than freeze up and bunt?

Health – Just as the primary focus in 2025 was health-related (my knee!), the primary application of my 2026 word of the year is my health: particularly to lose weight and reduce inflammation. So far this year, I’m on a 114-day streak of entering what I’m eating in My Fitness Pal (and am about 1/4 of the way to my weight-loss goal), and my husband and I got thorough bloodwork done through Function Health. One result of that testing is that we’re pretty confident I have Celiac disease. (Woo-hoo!) So my gluten-free regimen just got a bit more stringent.
Helping My Husband – This looks like continued faithfulness with the financial plan, managing our home well, and even helping him with some biblical counseling situations.
Connecting with My Kids – This includes practicing piano and taking lessons from my 14-year-old (I’m definitely his worst piano student–follow-through is severely lacking here!), reading the creative works my boys produce, and helping them navigate the exciting and exhausting adventures of their teen years.
Writing – Eliminating excuses, just sit down and write. [Like this article. Finally!]
Big Secret Project – I’m not revealing what this is yet, but suffice it to say, there’s a big undertaking on the table that’s been months in the making. And I’m excited to share with you…soon. Right now’s it’s mid-swing and gaining momentum.

Bible Verses on Follow-Through

The Bible doesn’t exactly use the word “follow-through”, but it does speak directly to motivation, perseverance, and effectiveness, which are all components of a good follow-through. Here are some of the verses that I’ll be meditating on as I seek to follow through on my commitments this year:

In all labor there is profit,
But mere talk leads only to poverty.
Proverbs 14:23

Therefore, since we have so great a cloud of witnesses surrounding us, let us also lay aside every encumbrance and the sin which so easily entangles us, and let us run with endurance the race that is set before us, fixing our eyes on Jesus, the author and perfecter of faith, who for the joy set before Him endured the cross, despising the shame, and has sat down at the right hand of the throne of God. For consider Him who has endured such hostility by sinners against Himself, so that you will not grow weary and lose heart.
Hebrews 12:1-3

I have fought the good fight, I have finished the course, I have kept the faith; in the future there is laid up for me the crown of righteousness, which the Lord, the righteous Judge, will award to me on that day; and not only to me, but also to all who have loved His appearing.
2 Timothy 4:7-8

But the seed in the good soil, these are the ones who have heard the word in an honest and good heart, and hold it fast, and bear fruit with perseverance.
Luke 8:15

The one who is faithful in a very little thing is also faithful in much; and the one who is unrighteous in a very little thing is also unrighteous in much.
Luke 16:10

But prove yourselves doers of the word, and not merely hearers who delude themselves. For if anyone is a hearer of the word and not a doer, he is like a man who looks at his natural face in a mirror; for once he has looked at himself and gone away, he has immediately forgotten what kind of person he was. But one who looks intently at the perfect law, the law of liberty, and abides by it, not having become a forgetful hearer but an effectual doer, this man will be blessed in what he does.
James 1:22-25

Therefore, having been justified by faith, we have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ,through whom also we have obtained our introduction by faith into this grace in which we stand; and we exult in hope of the glory of God. And not only this, but we also exult in our tribulations, knowing that tribulation brings about perseverance; and perseverance, proven character; and proven character, hope; and hope does not disappoint, because the love of God has been poured out within our hearts through the Holy Spirit who was given to us.
Romans 5:1-5

For in hope we have been saved, but hope that is seen is not hope; for who hopes for what he already sees?But if we hope for what we do not see, with perseverance we wait eagerly for it.
Romans 8:24-26

For whatever was written in earlier times was written for our instruction, so that through perseverance and the encouragement of the Scriptures we might have hope.
Romans 15:4

Fix Your Eyes and Follow Through

Did you catch the connection between perseverance and hope in those passages from Romans?!?

Hoping for something yet to be prompts our perseverance, but perseverance and the encouragement of the Scriptures also give hope. So, being rooted in the promises of God, I have hope. That hope ought to drive my perseverance–my follow-through–on the good things that God has called me to do. And then that perseverance, along with the testimony of Scripture, will strengthen my hope all the more! God is so good.

My hope and perseverance are rooted ultimately in the work of Christ on my behalf (see that Romans 5 passage above). The hope of the glory of God comes from the gospel. But perseverance in trial produces further hope. Which is still, ultimately, a result of the love of God poured out in our hearts through the Holy Spirit. >squeals of delight< It’s a cycle of greater hope, greater faith, greater perseverance…but the source of it all is the grace of God in Christ. Praise be to God.

This ties back into the name of my blog: Kept and Keeping. I’m kept by God’s grace–I’ve been saved by the work of Jesus. My sins are forgiven due to His sacrifice on the cross, and His righteousness credited to my account through faith. I’m now a child of God and He holds me securely. There’s hope.

But He is also at work in me–I’m keeping the faith by His grace and by the power of His Spirit. There’s perseverance.

This means that I continue to both repent of sin and believe in the Lord Jesus Christ, but it also means that I seek to walk out what I believe, producing fruit that brings glory to Jesus Christ.

The Christian life requires follow-through.

The incredible thing I’m seeing in these passages of Scripture is that God gets the glory for the good works He produces in me, but I also get some encouragement from it! Praise the Lord!

So, those practical goals that I have for the year are opportunities to follow through, to fix my eyes and run the race set before me, to persevere through trial, rooted in the grace of God in the gospel of Christ, for the glory of God. My hope set on heaven producing fruit here on earth.

What’s your word for 2026? Do you tie it in with your goals for the year? Or is it just a source of inspiration? I’d love to hear about it!

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When the World Breaks

11 Thursday Sep 2025

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I was in 8th grade when I found out the world was broken. The Columbine High School Massacre shook a nation, and it shook me, too.

Sure, growing up in Texas, I had been vaguely aware of the 1993 Waco Siege and a bit more aware of the Oklahoma City Bombing since it provoked a moment of silence before one of my 10U softball games.

But when you’re 14 and your conversion to Christ is less than a year old, the martyrdom of would-be peers like Cassie Bernall and Rachel Scott tends to leave an imprint.

“Do you believe in God?”

“Yes, I do.”

Bang.

Just a few years later, the world broke again.

It was September 11, 2001, and I had just walked into my Junior English class. There was a bit of a commotion and a student turned on the TV in the upper corner of the room, opposite the door, so I had a perfect view as I walked in. There was a tall building with smoke coming out of it. We watched with confusion, incredulity, and horror as a second plane ran into the other tower on live TV.

A girl in one of my classes shrieked that her dad was flying that day. She was a wreck until she found out he wasn’t on one of those planes.

Our US government test was canceled that afternoon. Instead, we watched and discussed history in the making, with room for questions, grief, and silence.

Just as my 14 year old self took courage from the stories of students who lost their lives at Columbine, I also followed stories of heroism from 9/11. Of particular note was Christian husband and father Tod Beamer. He was one of the men who left the illusory safety of his passenger seat to fight his plane’s hijacker. This is the plane that crashed in a field rather than, say, the White House. His widowed wife tells the story in the book Let’s Roll.

These are the moments and stories we never forget.

You remember the images. You remember where you were standing when the news broke and your world broke with it.

Today’s remembrance of 9/11 follows in the fresh wake of another world-breaking moment.

I won’t soon forget where I was standing yesterday afternoon when Charlie Kirk was murdered. I was in the kitchen, about to process some chicken and prepare enchiladas for our church’s youth who would arrive at our house in a few hours. I picked up my phone to check Instagram, and at the top of my feed was a simple text post from Allie Beth Stuckey announcing the shooting and pleading for prayer.

My first thought was, “Oh, God. Not Charlie Kirk.” You might have expected political violence against some of the more abrasive and loud-mouthed conservative figures. But Charlie was a devout Christian, outspoken but incredibly patient and willing to engage in dialog with anyone. “Not Charlie.”

Tears and many prayers followed.

Prayers and tears while cooking taco meat and rolling enchiladas. I asked the boys to put on a good album of Christian music while they cleaned and I cooked. I hadn’t told them yet. Still processing the event and food and prayer after prayer after prayer.

But when the report came out that Charlie had died, and the boys could likely see that something had been eating at me or at least had me distracted, I finally told them. Right there in the kitchen, standing next to the kitchen table.

The words didn’t come easily. But they came. So did the stunned faces, the look of shock and sadness.

Yesterday my 8th grader found out the world was broken, if he didn’t know that already.

Because yesterday a good man got shot for speaking truth. It’s the same thing that happened to Cassie Bernall and Rachel Scott, just on a grander and more sophisticated scale.

Promote free speech and civil discourse by living it.

Clearly articulate conservative moral and political views.

Speak up for the unborn.

Promote biblical marriage and family life.

Unashamedly proclaim the gospel.

Bang.

A young woman widowed. Two precious children left without a father. A nation of young people touched by the violence against a man who touched their lives.

What are we to do? There’s anger, there’s grief. What does the Scripture say?

Be angry and yet do not sin.

Weep with those who weep.

Pray for the widow and orphan.

Pray for those who persecute you.

Speak the truth in love.

Do not be ashamed of the gospel: the world is broken, and we know the only Healer.

Yes, we can do that. By the grace of God, we can do all of that. I can encourage my sons in that.

But I’m also thankful that I had responsibilities to feed other people yesterday evening. To pull me away from the news updates, the doom scrolling, the negative spiral and back into the physical world of embodied service and life in community.

We welcomed our friends last night, shared a meal, read and reflected on the Sermon on the Mount, prayed with our teens, and then as parents and leaders, prayed for our teens. What a healing balm on such a tragic day. We just did the usual thing, nothing loud and fancy—we gathered as believers in Christ, practicing the ordinary means of grace.

And I think that’s where I’ll leave this. Where do we go from here? We go to the Word and all of the most basic Christian disciplines—both in our solitude and in community. We run to Jesus, pleading that He might produce the fruit of His Spirit in us. And we go about our ordinary, everyday obedience to Christ, rolling up our sleeves and our enchiladas, refusing to abandon our post, refusing to shy away from the hard conversations, refusing to compromise the truth, prayerful and Christ-exalting in all of it.

And maybe, just maybe, instead of being more afraid because of yesterday’s events, we’ll do it all with even more courage and boldness because of Charlie Kirk’s example.

“The blood of the martyrs is the seed of the church.” —Tertullian

Some are called to serve Christ on the front lines by reaching young people on college campuses. And some of us are called to serve Christ on the front lines by raising our own young people before they land on a college campus.

So to the mamas out there: Hold the line. Make that meal. Arrange those flowers. Love your husband. Love your children. Call that friend. Provide the physical sustenance that brings people together for fellowship around the spiritual sustenance of the Word of God.

And pray for Erika Kirk as she seeks to do the same—without Charlie by her side.

Thought Sampler: July-August 2025

26 Tuesday Aug 2025

Posted by Lauren Scott in Thought Sampler

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Welcome to the Thought Sampler! These posts are where I share a few edifying, fun, inspiring, or otherwise thought-provoking morsels from my own writing or life and from around the web.

UPDATE: I recently had an article republished in Eternal Perspective Ministries Magazine, a free publication from Christian author Randy Alcorn. It was a privilege to be a part of this magazine and to share some thoughts on keeping the faith in my article: “Processing the Past with Grace.” You can read it in the online version of the Spring/Summer 2025 Issue. Be sure to read the whole magazine–it’s good stuff. You can also subscribe to the EPM Magazine and get future print issues delivered to your door for free.

PRACTICAL THEOLOGY: Here’s a thought-provoking article from my friend, Tabitha Alloway over at The Writer in the Willows: You Can’t Love If You Don’t Hate.

RECIPE: Two friends brought Gluten Free Oreos to events in the past week, sending me home with the leftovers. I have such thoughtful friends. 🙂 But I definitely don’t need to eat all of the Oreos myself! So I just put a batch of this deliciousness in the oven to take to Youth and Families (adapted for a tart pan so that these soon-to-be Oreo Cheesecake bars will kind of resemble an Oreo cheesecake pie). [Edited to Add: This was a big hit! Yum!]

QUOTE on CHURHC LIFE: From a book I recently finished, Gospel-Shaped Womanhood by Sarah Rice.

“Look for the person sitting alone next Sunday morning, and go say hello. Send the text. Take the meal. Open your home and table often. Serve in the nursery. Start the ministry where you see a void. Pray for your brothers and sisters. Commit to your local fellowship, and don’t church hop at the first sign of trouble. Family life in the local church will never be easy or totally fulfilling this side of eternity. But the imperfections don’t change the beautiful reality God has established or make it any less glorious. You were once far off, but Christ has brought you near to God and his people! Joy will come as you participate in that reality.”

REVIEW: I recently wrote a review of Hinds Feet on High Places over at GoodReads. This Christian classic is an encouraging read, but there are some things about it that discerning Christians ought to consider…

How about you? Found anything worth chewing on lately that you’d like to share?

Wise Women Build Up, Part 3: Gracious Words

18 Friday Jul 2025

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The following article and the other two in this series are talks that I gave at a women’s retreat in my area. The theme was “Pioneer Women”, and the scriptures were chosen for me. It was a fruitful exercise for me and a delight to get to share some insights from God’s Word with the lovely ladies who gathered to hear it. I hope you’ll find it to be an encouragement to you, as well. Building on the foundation of Godly Wisdom, and the life of Good Works that God calls us to, this third and final article discusses a Christian woman’s Gracious Words that ought to flow from hearts that have been redeemed by the love of God through the gospel of Jesus Christ.

Before we wrap up this series, let’s recap where we’ve been:

We want to pursue wisdom, asking God for it and searching for it in His Word—and we want to use that godly wisdom to glorify God by building up our household—caring for the people and things that God has entrusted to us.

We want to walk in the good works that God has prepared for us. Godly wisdom helps us to discern what works are truly good and worth our time, and we know that godly wisdom is rooted in the fact that our salvation rests fully on the work of Christ—not our own works. We love because He has first loved us. With faith and hope in Jesus, and with assurance of His incredible love for us, we can roll up our sleeves and do good to others in His name.

But Our Words Can Make or Break Our Service

We know that serving others can be messy. When we help those in need, we often become aware of things in their lives that they are ashamed of. The places they need help are often places of pain.

This is actually the context for today’s passage on the tongue. Our verse is 1 Timothy 3:11, but I’m going to get a run at it, starting with verse eight:

Deacons likewise must be men of dignity, not double-tongued, or addicted to much wine or fond of sordid gain, but holding to the mystery of the faith with a clear conscience. These men must also first be tested; then let them serve as deacons if they are beyond reproach. Women must likewise be dignified, not malicious gossips, but temperate, faithful in all things.

The word deacon means “servant.” This can take a lot of forms, from serving tables (Acts 6) to managing finances to visiting the sick and needy. Many commentators see the women in this passage as the wives of deacons, since the word for woman is the same in Greek as the word for wife. However you take it, it’s clear that the bible holds high standards for both men and women who serve in the church, and that standard is the kind of Christian maturity that we all ought to be aiming toward.

A woman who helps her husband in the service of God’s people, or who does real service in the church, whether married or not, needs to be someone who can be trusted. Are you a trustworthy friend and helper? Or does your mouth share what ought to be kept private? This takes wisdom and discretion, and we all will get it wrong sometimes (James 3). Each time we fail in our speech is an opportunity to confess it to the Lord and to anyone else where necessary, to repent of that sinful speech, and trust fully in the Lord Jesus who died to pay the penalty for that sin.

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A High Calling

Now, let’s look a bit closer at 1 Timothy 3:11, complete with color-coding to help us see what’s there. 🙂

It’s interesting to note that the characteristics held up for the women in our verse mirror most of those listed for the men:

Both are to be “dignified,” or honorable, so that when they serve in an official capacity for the church, they represent it and the Lord Jesus Christ well.

While it says women are to be “temperate,” the men also are to “not be addicted to much wine”—both are to be self-controlled and not under the influence of alcohol, so that they are able to serve with good, sober judgment at all times.

The call for women to be “faithful in all things” mirrors the men’s calling to be “beyond reproach”—so that no charges of misconduct can be brought against them.

The need for a deacon to be “not fond of sordid gain”, that is, ill-gotten or unjustly acquired wealth, fits here, too. When you are active in service, you may be entrusted with money either to give to those in need or to purchase things for service projects. “Faithful in all things” certainly would have an impact on how a man or woman handles money.

The same mirroring pattern holds for gossip. Women are not to be “malicious gossips.” And the men are not to be “double-tongued,” talking nice to someone’s face but saying something quite different behind their back.

Gossip

So what is gossip? Well, in our passage, the Greek word translated gossip is “diabolos.” The majority of the time this word is used in the New Testament, it is translated “devil”—referring to our enemy, the accuser of the brethren, the slanderer of our good and gracious God.

Our world today may wink at gossip as though it isn’t a big deal, or may even celebrate it by publishing it in tabloids, posting it on social media, or promoting it as “news.” But we’re warned in Scripture that gossip is a devilish and destructive behavior.

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Here’s a definition of gossip from Matthew Mitchell, a pastor invested in biblical counseling: He says that gossip is “Bearing bad news behind someone’s back out of a bad heart. …We gossip because our sinful hearts are attracted to negative stories much like moths to a flame.”

Ouch! But isn’t there truth in that statement? Have you ever wondered why the news focuses so much on bad news? Why most viral social media posts are angry rants? The human heart is drawn to this stuff.

If we are to become wise women whose speech is characterized by gracious words, we need to learn how to resist gossip from the heart—not just try to stop damaging words at our lips, but learning to renew our hearts and minds by the help of God’s Holy Spirit.

Out of the overflow of the heart, the mouth speaks, Jesus told us.

In Philippians 4:8, Paul tells us to think about whatever things are true, honorable, right, pure, lovely…if there is anything of good repute, if there is excellence, or anything worthy of praise, think about these things.

That’s a pretty good filter both for what we take in and for what we dish out.

Gossip can include passing on a scandalous news story that you haven’t verified—or one that you have verified but simply isn’t necessary. It can include divulging private matters that someone entrusted to you in confidence—and in such cases, it’s a breech of trust that can not only hurt the person you’re speaking about, but it can also do lasting damage to your relationship. And the person you shared that juicy morsel with—how likely are they to trust you in the future? They already know that you talked about your other friend behind her back.

Searching Our Hearts

Here are some questions we can ask ourselves to keep our hearts and our tongues in check. These are borrowed from a recent podcast episode on gossip by Marci Farrell, at Thankful Homemaker:

Questions to ask yourself:

Is it time to say this?
Am I the right person to say this?
Is it necessary? (Will it really help/give grace?)
Is it kind?
Is it true?

A question I would add is this:

Why do I want to share this? Am I making myself feel or look better by sharing someone else’s shame?
How can I speak graciously and honestly about this person without divulging things that ought to remain private?

Where to watch out for gossip:

Social media
When seeking counsel
Prayer requests
Sharing conflict
Venting

Caveat: We may need a trusted husband or friend or mentor with which to share the details of our lives and the wrestlings of our hearts—just make sure they are trustworthy and not prone to morbid interest in gossip or to repeating what they hear. I remember sharing something with a friend in college, and her response was, as she assumed, to join me in bashing the other person. But that wasn’t what I was doing, nor was it what I wanted from her. She demonstrated that she was not a godly, trustworthy friend. A good and godly friend will sympathize with you without taking on an ungodly attitude on your behalf. Look for that in a friend, and seek to be that kind of friend for others.

Here are two other caveats that we can’t go into detail on today, but that I’d still like to briefly state:

1) There’s a difference between a hard word and a harsh word. We can’t control how someone will respond when we bring a needed reproof (a hard word). But we can control how we deliver it—by being gracious rather than harsh.

A gentle answer turns away wrath,
But a harsh word stirs up anger.
Proverbs 15:1

2) There’s also a big difference between everyday wise restraint of our speech and reporting a crime. Talk to the wise older women and leaders in your church for help knowing when it is time to speak up and get help. If there’s real danger, please reach out to someone who can help.

Gracious Words Build Up Children

To bring this all home, I want to illustrate the deep impact our words can have. Let’s think for a moment about our long-ago pioneer woman. Let’s imagine that her family lives out on the plains where their nearest neighbors are 50, maybe 100 miles away, back in a time when that kind of journey would take a couple days. Her husband and her children would be the only people around on a daily basis. And that means that the words she spoke to them would make up just about all that they heard from anyone. There would be no video or audio recordings. No telephones. No one else to speak words of life to her husband and children. What if she spoke bitterly and sarcastically toward her husband and impatiently and critically toward her children? What if she filed all of her complaints against her husband to the children? And what if she did them same when reporting on the children to their father?

The man and the children might try to encourage each other, but what has mama contributed to their hearts and minds? What atmosphere has she created in her home?

We have so many entertainments and noisy diversions today that we might imagine that the impact of our words is less critical than in bygone days (but it’s not). And with all of our personalized distractions, it’s possible to hurt others by our lack of speech: completely ignoring the people in our homes, each of us more attached to a device or screen than we are to one another. We can do harm both by destructive words and by checking out.

Children not only learn to talk from their parents, they also build their inner script off of what they hear from their parents. I believe it was Sally Clarkson who first made me aware of this particular power of mothers. We set the tone for our children’s hearts and minds, fueling their inner dialog, or what some call “self-talk.” I’ve seen this work out beautifully. My pastor and his wife have some incredibly joyful daughters. I can see so much of their mother’s words and attitudes in them. But I also have a friend whose mother spoke words of poison into her soul. And the impact has been disastrous, wreaking havoc in my friend’s life ten, twenty years into adulthood. There are very real and long-lasting consequences to the words we speak in our homes.

It’s not that we can’t, by the grace of God, overcome the difficult and sometimes downright devilish words that have been spoken around us or to us or about us. By God’s grace and the power of His Spirit, we can put off the old and put on the new, we can fill our hearts and minds with Scripture, turn our thoughts to what God says is true, be nourished by friends and mentors who speak God’s truth over us. But isn’t it better, if it is in our power, especially if we are mothers, to lay that kind of foundation for our families in the first place?

Reading the bible to the children, helping them memorize scripture, singing songs and hymns, telling good, heroic stories, calming them when they’re scared, teaching them to turn their thoughts to what is true and good, praying with them, lovingly teaching them all the practical skills of everyday life, calmly disciplining and then redirecting them when they misbehave…

Our attitudes and words in all of these activities make up the air that our children breathe.

Gracious Words Build Up Husbands

And this is true for anyone we share our home with, including our husbands, if we’re married. Our words to our husbands either strengthen our relationship, put it on ice, or tear it down. What are you doing in your words to your husband? Typically, a wife’s opinion and treatment of her husband matters to him more than what anyone else thinks of him or says to him. Use that power for good. Build him up with gracious, encouraging words. Thank him for what he does for your family—both at work and at home. If he plays with the children, encourage and celebrate it. Remind him why you fell for him in the first place and tell him what you still love about him today. Like the pioneer husband on the plains, he won’t get that kind of encouragement from anyone else but you—and he shouldn’t.

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Whomever you live with or near—a roommate or sibling, a neighbor down the street or down the hall—what impact can your gracious words have on them? For their good and for the sake of the gospel of Jesus? Let’s align our hearts with God’s truth and use our words to proclaim and show forth His goodness to those around us—in our homes, in our churches, and wherever else we may go.

God, in the beginning, You spoke and created all things. And you said that it was all GOOD. Only You have true words of life, so help us to run to You, to cling to Your life-giving Word. And Father, please put Your Word into our hearts and minds, and may it also pour out of us into the lives of others, that our words would be in line with Your words, Your truth, Your goodness. May the teaching of kindness be on our lips. Amen.

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Have you read all three posts in this series? What has spoken to your heart when it comes to living out Godly Wisdom, Good Works, and Gracious Words? Have you prayerfully put any of this into practice?

Here are the other posts in this series:
Wise Women Build Up, Part 1: Godly Wisdom
Wise Women Build Up, Part 2: Good Works
Wise Women Build Up, Part 3: Gracious Words (that’s this post!)

Wise Women Build Up, Part Two: Good Works

30 Friday May 2025

Posted by Lauren Scott in Home and Family, Living Faith

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The following article and the other two in this series are talks that I gave at a women’s retreat in my area. The theme was “Pioneer Women”, and the scriptures were chosen for me. It was a fruitful exercise for me and a delight to get to share some insights from God’s word with the lovely ladies who gathered to hear it. I hope you’ll find it to be an encouragement to you, as well. Building on the foundation of Godly Wisdom, this second article discusses a Christian woman’s Good Works, and the third article focuses on the Gracious Words that ought to flow from hearts that have been redeemed by the love of God through the gospel of Jesus Christ.

In Part One we covered how Godly Wisdom can help us build up our homes and people. Now we’re going to look more specifically at how that Godly Wisdom produces a life of Good Works.

First we’ll discover from our passage that modesty and Good Works flow from the same heart.

Then we’ll look at examples of Good Works and consider how they might look different in different seasons in our life.

And then I have a poem to share with you.

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Getting Dressed in … Good Works

Our world puts a lot of emphasis on outward beauty, and we all have likely felt the pressure to keep up. There’s an endless supply of makeup and beauty products from companies that are eager to play on your insecurities as a business strategy. Fast fashion provides an endless supply of clothing and accessories, cheaply made, and changing from season to season so that you’ll always fall behind.

These influences can promote insecurity about who we are, competition with others, and the temptation to exalt ourselves to keep up. While it’s good to care for your body and your physical appearance, it’s not good to sell your soul to do so, or to crowd out things that are far more important.

To that point, let’s take a look at 1 Timothy 2:9-10:

Likewise, I want women to adorn themselves with proper clothing, modestly and discreetly, not with braided hair and gold or pearls or costly garments, but rather by means of good works, as is proper for women making a claim to godliness.

The apostle Paul calls us to wear proper clothing, but even more so he calls us to adorn ourselves with good works!

Modesty is part of the context of our passage, so I want to give you something you can take home on the subject—and you might be surprised that it actually relates to our topic of good works. The Greek word translated “modestly” or “with modesty” in many of our English translations means “shame.” But it’s not the wallowing, debilitating kind. In fact, in the only other place it’s used in the New Testament, it’s translated “awe” toward God. So this is a shame that doesn’t get stuck feeling bad about oneself but rather sees the importance of something outside itself. It’s a kind of shame that goes hand in hand with honor.

God is worthy of honor, so I would be ashamed to do something or wear something that would dishonor Him. The people around me are worthy of honor, so I would be ashamed to do or wear something that would in some way harm or dishonor them. My body, which God has made, is worthy of honor, so I would be ashamed to wear something or behave in a way that treats it as though it’s cheap.

When we know what is truly valuable, we order our lives to reflect it. When we see God for who He is, the most other, the most holy, the most powerful, loving, just, merciful, and good—worthy of all praise and adoration; when we see that this amazing God sent His own Son to die so that we could live; when we see that our sin and shame was nailed to the cross and Jesus’ righteousness has been credited to our account—then our tendency to want to exalt ourselves by what we wear or do melts away. That’s where a truly modest heart comes from. And that’s what drives both our manner of dress and what we choose to do with the time and energy we are given.

Our primary focus is not on showing off our wealth or our bodies or even our self-righteousness. Our primary focus is on honoring God and others by what we wear and even more so by what we do.

What Good Works?

So if we have clothed ourselves first with godly wisdom, which in this case means a heart that values God supremely and that sees the value of others and wants to honor them, how then do we clothe ourselves in good works? What can that look like?

1 Tim. 5:9-10 gives a list of good works that were to make up an older widow’s reputation if she was to be assisted by the church. What kind of works were listed there?

Bringing up children — Don’t forget that your care for your children is not just a good work, it is one of the greatest works of your life. Devote yourself to doing it well. Those of you that work with children, whether you have any of your own—nurturing and caring for them, teaching them and pointing them to Jesus—that is a good work. If you give to support the work of ministries who care for children, who care for women facing a surprise pregnancy, who help the foster or adoptive parent community. These are all good works.

Showing hospitality to strangers — In the ancient world, this often meant welcoming a traveler into your home, providing every comfort and sustenance for their stay and helping them on their way when it was time to leave. When we open our homes to others, it has the potential to nourish them spiritually, physically, emotionally—in just about every way.

So look for and invest in those opportunities the Lord brings to show hospitality: whether it’s having people into your home to share your food and your life with them, or cooking food for a potluck at church enabling a longer and more intimate time of fellowship on a Sunday afternoon, having someone live with you while they’re between jobs or housing options, or throwing a graduation party, bridal shower, baby shower, charitable bake sale, you name it.

By this work of provision and hosting, we women have the ability to deeply impact our families, our churches, and our broader communities, bidding them each to taste and see that the Lord is good and that fellowship among His people is sweet. That the grace that saves us is also a grace that changes us. It is amazing how God uses the love of Christians for one another to draw people to trust in Jesus.

Washing the feet of the saints — This is about serving in lowly ways. Feet get dirty. And they especially got dirty back in Bible times. Do you think certain acts of service are beneath you? Or are you willing to stoop down and do the work that must be done, whatever it is? Cleaning toilets. Changing diapers. Staying up with a toddler until they’re done throwing up the last bite of supper. Staying up through the night praying with a friend until she’s willing to flush that last joint. Pet sitting for a neighbor when you’re not a pet person, but her husband is in the hospital, so of course you say yes. These moments are not glamorous. They’re not fun. They may not line up with your gifts. And they won’t make it on your resume. But God sees. And He delights in and works through such sacrifices when they are offered to Him in faith.

Assisting those in distress — James tells us that part of true religion is visiting orphans and widows in their distress. The focus here is not just on the material need; it’s about those who are suffering alone: widows, orphans. Loneliness is a very real problem today, even in our supposedly connected modern world. Sometimes the best thing you can do for someone is simply show up. On an average Tuesday afternoon. Or in the hospital. At the funeral. With a card or flowers a year later at the anniversary of a loss. At their home with a warm meal or cup of coffee and an offer to listen.

This is where today’s hustle culture can really lead us astray. Chasing our dreams with no concern for the needs of those around us means we likely don’t even see them. And if we do, we excuse ourselves. We don’t have time. We’re too busy getting ahead.

But true religion sees and seeks to meet needs.

Good Works Go Both Ways

Now, I want to tell you a story that demonstrates how good works don’t always have to go in one direction.

Almost two years ago there was a godly older man in our church whose wife was dying of cancer. A storm had downed a lot of limbs in his yard, but he didn’t have the time or energy to handle it in that season—especially not by himself. My husband Nathaniel organized a group of men from church to show up on a Saturday to cut and haul and burn until his yard was cleared.

Several months later, after his wife went home to be with the Lord, Nathaniel broke his hand. There was a lot of work to do on our property, and he was discouraged about it. So, I planned a surprise work day party for his 40th birthday, inviting friends from church to come help us clear brush and get our garden ready for the season. And you know who was the first person to show up that day, chainsaw in hand, ready to serve? The very same man my husband had helped several months before.

Sisters, that’s what it looks like when the church behaves like a family. Or like an old-time community on the frontier, where neighbors help each other. It’s just what they do. There’s not one class of people doing good works all the time with another class of people always on the receiving end. We each serve when we’re able and how we’re able. And we receive with gratitude when we’re the ones in need.

Part of making this kind of thing happen, though, is being vulnerable enough to share our needs with others so that we give them the opportunity to joyfully meet them in the name of Jesus.

There’s a particular need that my husband and I have noticed in recent years. There are a lot of young people, and even some approaching middle age, whose parents never taught them how to do basic life skills. They need someone to step in and provide for them the kind of life training that they didn’t receive growing up. If your parents taught you a handful of life skills and you’ve been on your own or caring for a family for a decade or more, you probably take your skills for granted. You don’t have to be a homesteader and make sourdough to have something to offer. The skills you’ve gained over the years are incredibly valuable, and there are people who need to learn from what you know.

Aside from the obvious home skills, what other skills do you have that could bless the people around you? In your church? In your place of work? The point here is not to zero in on any one set of skills, but to see what you have to offer that meets the needs of the people around you.

Good Works, Different Seasons

It’s cliché but true: We can’t all do everything, but we all can do something.

Sometimes we’re in a season of expansion—where we find we are capable of taking on more responsibility, more good work out there. Other times, we find ourselves in a season of pulling back, focusing on the essentials—or even being more on the receiving end of other people’s good works and service on our behalf. There is no shame in any of these seasons. If you can’t give much right now, if you are doing a lot more receiving than giving—then do so graciously. Give thanks. Don’t let feelings of guilt crowd out your ability to rejoice in the good work God is doing through others while you receive it or watch from the sidelines. And don’t forget that your prayers are a very important part of the work of the kingdom.

If this message finds you in a season of overwhelm, where you’re thinking, this all sounds nice, but I’m swamped, maxed-out, worn out… let me encourage you that the Christian life isn’t about doing more. Some may need a nudge to get moving, maybe you don’t.

At the next opportunity, I encourage you to step outside. To take a moment to pause. Take some deep breaths, and look around you at this incredible world that God has made. A world that He keeps spinning. A whole big world that doesn’t depend upon you. You don’t have to carry the weight of the world. God’s got that covered.

Soak up what God has made—the birds of the air, offering up their songs to the Lord and to our ears for our enjoyment; the trees and flowers in bloom, filling our view with dazzling colors. And consider. God cares for each of these. And He cares for you, too.

In all your busyness, in all your responsibilities, in all your overwhelm, don’t forget your Heavenly Father’s tender care for you—and cast your cares on Him. Seek first His kingdom and His righteousness, and all these things will be added unto you. God cares and provides for His people. And the work that has you so bogged down right now may produce fruit in due season—if you do not lose heart. Do not grow weary in doing good.

For your reflection:

What are the good works that God is calling you to do right now? Are there things to add?

Is there anything on your plate right now that doesn’t belong there? That is either too much or all about exalting yourself? Or is it simply a distraction from the good work that you know God has called you to?

Are there good things that you are already doing, but you’re grumbling as you do them? Can you see with the eyes of faith that the work set before you is GOOD and therefore, it’s worth doing it cheerfully?

I’d like to leave you with a poem that Elisabeth Elliot often shared in her writing and teaching. “Do the next thing” may sound like just another modern, over-simplified, get-er-done mantra. But in the context of the poem and a life lived to the glory of God, it is much more: a call to live out our faith in Christ through surrendering to God in each task He sets before us, casting our cares on Him each step of the way.

DO THE NEXT THING

From an old English parsonage down by the sea
There came in the twilight a message to me;
Its quaint Saxon legend, deeply engraven,
Hath, it seems to me, teaching from Heaven.
And on through the doors the quiet words ring
Like a low inspiration: “DO THE NEXT THING.”

Many a questioning, many a fear,
Many a doubt, hath its quieting here.
Moment by moment, let down from Heaven,
Time, opportunity, and guidance are given.
Fear not tomorrows, child of the King,
Trust them with Jesus, do the next thing

Do it immediately, do it with prayer;
Do it reliantly, casting all care;
Do it with reverence, tracing His hand
Who placed it before thee with earnest command.
Stayed on Omnipotence, safe ‘neath His wing,
Leave all results, do the next thing.

Looking for Jesus, ever serener,
Working or suffering, be thy demeanor;
In His dear presence, the rest of His calm,
The light of His countenance be thy psalm,
Strong in His faithfulness, praise and sing.
Then, as He beckons thee, do the next thing.

But Rather By Means of Good Works

Being a wise and godly woman involves more than just donning the right outfit. Putting on a cotton prairie dress and some makeup can change your appearance, and that’s fine, but it doesn’t change your heart or get the work done for you.

Please don’t let the algorithm or someone else’s business model determine who you are, how you dress, and what you do. Stay rooted in God’s word, dressing in a way that fits your profession of faith (and your daily activity!), and devoted to walking in the good works that God has prepared for you (1 Tim. 5:10 & Eph. 2:10).

Dear Father,

Help us to be women who are willing to roll up our sleeves, to step into the messes of life to lend a helping hand to our brothers and sisters in need. Help us to not be afraid to get dirty, having the heart of a true servant, like our Lord Jesus who stooped down to wash the feet of His disciples and to heal those who were sick or unclean.

May we see all of our work—in our homes, in our jobs or studies, in Your church, in our local communities, and even reaching to other nations—may we see all of it as an opportunity to serve others and adorn the gospel, the message of good news that while we were sinners, utterly lost in our rebellion, hopeless to gain salvation by our own works—that You, Jesus, lived that perfect life that pleases God, that You died on the cross as a payment for our sins, so that simply by placing our faith and hope in You, Jesus, we could be forgiven and gain full acceptance into Your family.

Help us to trust in You, Jesus, to see our sin and need for salvation, that no amount of our own good works can save us. But may we also see Your incredible love for us and Your offer of forgiveness and the hope of eternal life. May we do good works because You have done the ultimate work, and it is finished. May we rest in grace and labor in love. It’s in Your sweet name, Jesus, that we pray. Amen.

Here are the other posts in this series:
Wise Women Build Up, Part 1: Godly Wisdom
Wise Women Build Up, Part 2: Good Works (that’s this post!)
Wise Women Build Up, Part 3: Gracious Words

Wise Women Build Up, Part One: Godly Wisdom

30 Wednesday Apr 2025

Posted by Lauren Scott in Home and Family, Living Faith

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The following article and the two that follow it are talks that I gave at a women’s retreat in my area. The theme was “Pioneer Women”, and the scriptures were chosen for me. So you could say I was writing and speaking to a prompt, which was a new and fun challenge. It was a fruitful exercise for me and a delight to get to share some insights from God’s word with the lovely ladies who gathered to hear it. I hope you’ll find it to be an encouragement to you, as well.
This first article discusses a Christian woman’s Godly Wisdom, and the two following articles flow from that, digging deeper into the Good Works and Gracious Words that ought to flow from hearts that have been redeemed by the love of God through the gospel of Jesus Christ.

I’m not a pioneer woman. Although we live on seven acres, homeschool, make most of our food from scratch, and tend a large garden, we don’t have animals [yet], and we live close enough to town that lately I end up going there for activities and errands most days of the week, so I wouldn’t call myself a homesteader and certainly not a pioneer woman.

But I know someone who fits the description pretty well. In fact, I have used Proverbs 14:1, our passage for today, about this friend of mine, because she has been literally building her house along with her husband, debt free on a teacher’s salary up in north central Arkansas with lumber they milled themselves right there on the family land. They’ve also got a cow and chickens and goats and cats, she makes her own kombucha, and they’re homeschooling the oldest few of their five young children. They’re really doing it. And it’s kinda crazy and truly inspiring. We go up to visit them every summer to pitch in, and it’s a blast.

We’re not all going to live that kind of lifestyle, but I think we can all recognize the incredible spunk and resourcefulness, patience and intention that go into that kind of undertaking. So in this article we’re going to explore how we can apply some of those same pioneer woman qualities in our own context.

First, we’ll cover Proverbs 14:1 looking at what Godly Wisdom is and does.

Then, we’ll see how our passage lays only two options before us. And I’ll give you five habits of a wise woman that can help you think through your own situation.

Finally, I’ll tell you about the great recognition that might just change the way you think about your home life.

What Godly Wisdom Is and Does

Our first scripture for today reminds us of the power and influence we have over our household. How we show up at home matters today as much as it did in times past.

Here’s Proverbs 14:1:

The wise woman builds her house,
But the foolish tears it down with her own hands.

In the broader context of Proverbs, this verse simply continues the contrast between wisdom and folly. The wise do this, and the foolish do that. Lady wisdom, as the idea of wisdom is often personified, does something positive, while Lady folly, her foolish counterpart, does something negative, sometimes with disastrous consequences.

Lady wisdom, or that wise woman of Proverbs, builds her house. But before we talk about building, we probably ought to understand what it means to be wise according to the Bible.

What is wisdom? In God’s word, wisdom carries both the idea of understanding what is good and right and best before God AND choosing or doing what is good and right and best in our own given situation. All of our practical wisdom can develop freely and in many creative directions if we first submit our hearts and minds to God, reverently loving what He loves and hating what He hates.

To give us some idea of what wisdom looks like in practice, here are some examples of what wisdom does:

Wisdom fears the Lord.

Wisdom seeks for knowledge and understanding rather than waiting around for it.

Wisdom pays attention.

Wisdom sees needs in advance and plans to meet them in a timely manner.

Wisdom sees harm in advance and prepares to avoid or endure it well.

Wisdom chooses the truth over the half truth or lies, the good over the bad, the effective over the ineffective (but also creative beauty over mere efficiency), to build rather than to destroy, to work with excellence rather than sloppiness (but it also prefers good enough and done over paralyzing perfectionism).

Wisdom considers all of the moving pieces of a household, whether people, animals, plants, or inanimate objects, and seeks to manage them well and for the health and flourishing of each member.

Wisdom speaks skillfully and with kindness; and is quiet when necessary, too.

James 3:13-18 gives us a good description of godly wisdom in contrast to worldly wisdom:

Who among you is wise and understanding? Let him show by his good behavior his deeds in the gentleness of wisdom. But if you have bitter jealousy and selfish ambition in your heart, do not be arrogant and so lie against the truth. This wisdom is not that which comes down from above, but is earthly, natural, demonic. For where jealousy and selfish ambition exist, there is disorder and every evil thing. But the wisdom from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, reasonable, full of mercy and good fruits, unwavering, without hypocrisy. And the seed whose fruit is righteousness is sown in peace by those who make peace.

The negative traits that James lists give us a picture of the kind of woman who might tear down her household or those around her: “bitter jealousy” “selfish ambition” “arrogance” “lies” “disorder” “hypocrisy”.

Are those things that you bring to your home? Or does your presence in your home bring with it “gentleness” “understanding” “good behavior” “purity” “peace” “reasonableness” “mercy” “good fruits” “righteousness”?

We don’t accidentally produce good fruit. We grow in godly wisdom and the fruit of the Spirit by depending upon the Lord, anchoring ourselves in His word, and practicing what we’re learning—with a lot of confession and repentance and resting in Jesus’ along the way when we get it wrong.

Only Two Options

Proverbs 14:1 paints a picture of only two options: a wise woman who actively builds up her household; and a foolish woman who actively tears it down. There is no neutral third party. Either you contribute to the good of your household, or you work toward its destruction by your complacency.

Now, I’m not talking about being a perfectionist, but I am talking about being faithful to do what you can.
Proverbs warns us that “The lazy man is brother to him who destroys.”

Think about it: If you simply ignore the dust bunnies, will they go away or get bigger? Do your floors clean themselves? Does the clutter go away if you ignore it? No, all of these get worse with time and use. We can tear our house down by our neglect. (I’m learning now just how important maintenance is—for our homes and possessions and our aging bodies. Maintenance is required!) We’d like to be able to just ignore it all and do whatever new thing peaks our interest, but that’s not the way this sin-cursed world works. Things tend toward entropy. Toward falling apart and breaking down.

If we are merely indifferent toward our responsibilities to care for, to steward, the good things God has graciously given us, then we are actually contributing toward their destruction.

Think about how this works in relationships. If your husband or sibling or roommate always responded to you with blank looks and a mopey attitude, would you feel like they were close to you, or would you feel like they were moving away from you? Like maybe they had something against you? If we are not actively investing in the people in our lives—by looking them in the eyes, smiling at them, and engaging with them with interest and real concern, we are actually tearing down our relationships by our lack of investing in them. It’s been said that the opposite of love is not hate but rather indifference. Watch out that indifference doesn’t creep into your relationships.

Weather we’re talking about seeds in the garden or relationships in our home, if we don’t water it, it’s not gonna grow, and it might just die.

Five Habits of a Wise Woman

So, how can we be wise and intentional builders rather than foolish and negligent destroyers? How do we translate the idea-level wisdom of Scripture into a boots-on-the-ground wisdom that builds up our homes and people? Well, we need to first understand that wisdom discerns what best honors God and serves people in a real time and place. So there isn’t a cookie-cutter answer. But we can learn how to prayerfully think through our own situation and season of life.

To that end, here are FIVE habits of a wise woman that can help us to be builders in our homes. We need to PRIORITIZE, or put first things first, ATTEND to those things that are our priorities, IMAGINE what is possible for our homes and people, ESTABLISH rhythms or routines to help us follow through on our intentions, and ACQUIRE the skills necessary to do our duties and love our people well. If you have paper or a notebook handy, write down each habit and answer the questions or prompts listed under each.

PRIORITIZE

The commands and examples of scripture call us to prioritize home as the first place of ministry and as the place from which we can do good works for the glory of God beyond our front door. Remember that godly wisdom isn’t hypocritical. We ought to be practicing Christian virtue and service at home—where only our families or roommates—or maybe even only God—sees how we live.

So. —Who and what are you responsible for? List everything that comes to mind.

Circle those people and things that you are most responsible for before God. Think of where you live. An apartment? House? Assisted living? Think of who you live with or who is nearby.

If you wear the title “wife” or “mom” then you are irreplaceable in those roles. Make sure you show up for them first and always. If you are the only daughter of your parents, or you siblings’ only sister, know that you are irreplaceable in those relationships, too.

ATTEND

See your home and see your people—give your attention to each. It’s said about that Proverbs 31 woman that “She looks well to the ways of her household.” Look and really see both the people and the things around you. And write them down.

List what each one needs from you. Then circle those things that would make the most difference for them if you did them.

You can’t do everything. So evaluating and prioritizing are things we have to do again and again. When we have to do it on the fly, I call it triage. And I’ve been doing it a LOT lately since we’re into our second month of a home remodel project along with track season for the boys and a host of other projects.

The constant question isn’t how can I get it all done—instead it’s what can I not afford to leave undone? Some days or weeks that will be a task or project or something with a deadline; other times, it’s a conversation or other investment in a relationship that is timely and simply cannot wait.

Attend to yourself: The woman sets the tone of the household–your emotions are the thermostat. Are you heating things up? Are you cold toward others? Or are you pleasantly warm or cool to meet the needs in your home?

Do the members of your home need more hugs? How can you show appropriate physical affection? A hand on the shoulder to encourage a friend or roommate. Hugging your kids. When they get on your nerves, give them a hug rather than running away from them. It will probably calm you both down.

This is also a great opportunity to make plans to encourage the people in your home. Don’t leave this to chance. Take a quiet moment to think about who they are and what they do—and how you can praise and thank them for what they do well.

It’s hard to obey the command to consider the needs of others if you aren’t even aware of them. So start paying attention.

IMAGINE the good that is possible

It might be surprising to hear that cultivating imagination can help you live out your faith and build up your home and family. But the more our culture breaks ties between one generation and the generation that came before it, the more we are left in the dark about how godly women have done this job well in past ages. We lose touch with history and traditional skills and biblical family dynamics. And our TV and movies don’t usually give us pictures of these things—or if they do, they don’t often hold them up with dignity and encouragement.

Perhaps even more disturbing, with screens replacing face-to-face human interaction, we as a society are losing touch with the basic skills and manners that nourish relationships. We need instruction and imagination to think ahead about how to prefer others in social settings, or to understand what another person might be going through. I’ll just straight up tell you, that I’ve had to learn and grow a lot in that department over the years.

Read Christian books on homemaking—whether you work outside of the home or not, whether you’re married or single. They can inspire you—because making our homes a more enjoyable place to live and to share with others is a wonderful way to imitate God in His creative and sustaining work. Books by Sally Clarkson are a great place to start (I’ve enjoyed The Life Giving Home more than once).

What would make your home just a little more beautiful? Don’t break the bank—it can be a bunch of wildflowers collected from the side of the road that you put in a drinking glass on your desk or the kitchen table. What small touch can you add that will show yourself and others that you care for the space?

ESTABLISH rhythms of work and rest, fellowship and availability and solitude

If we’ve set our priorities and identified real needs, we ought to be intentional about making space for them in our schedule.

Is God’s word a part of your routine? Do you share that with the members of your household? Do you pray with them? For them? To build them up in the faith?

Meal times can be a great opportunity to attach bible reading to something that already happens during your day.

What would it take to make regular family meals a reality in your home if it isn’t already? Or, if you’re ready to level up, to have someone over for dinner once a week?

Do you plan times of rest into your days and weeks? Do you make space for screen-free family or roommate time where the focus is on each other and not on digital media?

Pick one or two building actions that you want to put into place this week—and choose ahead of time when you will do them. Establish a routine.

ACQUIRE skills and tools

As you are attending to your home and your people, you’ll probably start to notice that there are things that don’t come naturally, areas where you need a lot of growth or don’t know exactly what to do. That’s ok! Get started anyway. But take notes on what skills or tools you need to add to your tool box. What are they? Write them down! Seek out both physical skills and social graces. Look around at your sisters in Christ who do any of these things well. Imitate them or ask them to teach you.

The Great Recognition:

GOD IS A MEMBER OF YOUR HOUSEHOLD—This may be most notable for those who live alone.

If you live alone, who is there with your thoughts and actions? You and God. Are you building each of them up? Do your words to yourself ring true—do they build you up in the faith? Or do they tear you down? Are your thoughts about yourself and others always critical, echoing the voice of the accuser? Or are you renewing your mind with God’s word?

Are your thoughts about God and your prayers to Him what they ought to be? God deserves our praise, even more than the people who may live in our homes need our encouragement. Do we recognize that God is with us? As the central figure in our home? How does the goal of building your house change when you consider that, if you are a believer in Jesus, He is there with you in the quietness of your home? Do you “build up” your thoughts of God with the truth of Scripture?

Now God is so big and self-sustaining that He doesn’t need anything from us. But He desires our childlike trust, our responsive love, and our sincere thanks and adoration for all He is and all He has done for us. And He invites us to join Him in the work that He’s doing in the world.

So as you consider building up the people in your home, please do not forget that God is a part of your household. That your relationship with Jesus and your thoughts of Him, as well as those of everyone else in your home, need to be built up, too.

Bringing It Home

The wise woman builds her house, but the foolish tears it down with her own hands. We need godly wisdom that fears the Lord, ordering all of our loves and actions under His Lordship and authority and putting to use all that God has given us to point to the grace of God in Christ Jesus.

Please don’t underestimate the power of a warm home and a healthy, loving family in this kingdom-building work. So many people are coming from broken homes and broken situations. Nothing out there in the world can replace the home they should have had. But our homes, surrendered to the Lord and made welcoming for people, can be a place of love and warmth that points others to the love of God.

So, like the strong, resourceful pioneer women, with a prayer and a plan, let’s roll up our sleeves and get to work.

How do you plan to build up your people and your home this week?

Here are the other posts in this series:
Wise Women Build Up, Part 1: Godly Wisdom (that’s this post!)
Wise Women Build Up, Part 2: Good Works
Wise Women Build Up, Part 3: Gracious Words

The thorough answer is: listen to the podcast. 🙂 It’s a long one, but well worth it, I promise!

If you are wondering why I would dedicate space on this blog to such an issue, why I would light up my social media accounts with it, then I think you’ll appreciate hearing my story–how I got involved in researching this issue last May, and how it became personal very, very quickly.

The podcast covers my experience with a “school choice” program rolling out in my home state of Arkansas, as well as Brandy’s experience in California and now in Texas. We also discuss key principles that you can use to evaluate any “school choice” legislation or programs in your own state (or country).

The details may differ from state to state, but the basic principles remain the same.

I strongly encourage you to give this episode a listen. The future of homeschooling and private Christian education in America may very well depend upon our understanding of these principles–and our courage to act upon them…or not.

Ten Tips for Frugal Homeschooling

17 Monday Feb 2025

Posted by Lauren Scott in Home Education

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It’s been suggested that the average spending for one homeschooled child for one year can range from $250 to $2,500 (other estimates say $700-$1700, but I don’t take that lower number seriously—it’s too high).

The families who spend on the higher-end of that range are likely paying for private tutors, expensive co-ops, on-line courses, or pre-packaged programs with all the bells and whistles.

But I know families who have spent less than $100 per child (or even for the whole family!) in a given year. And often in my experience, some of the highest-achieving homeschool students I know come from families with the most frugal homeschool practices. While some level of monetary investment in your child’s home education is necessary and worth it(!!!), beyond the point at which the real necessities are covered for your family, more money in does not necessarily equal more education out.

You do not have to break the bank (or use government funds) to give your child an excellent education at home. Here’s a word from a good friend of mine who, like me, has been homeschooling for well over a decade:

“I discovered after the first year that I could do this gig fairly cheaply. The most money I have spent in a year, when I was homeschooling three kids was $500. This year, I spent less than $100 [for two kids].” And I happen to know that her kids are doing quite well.

My own family spends a bit more than that on average. (That’s why I consider this friend of mine to be a true queen of frugal homeschooling!) But our homeschool spending, even in our highest years, still stays pretty close to the low end of the average spending listed above. Averaging across all eleven years we’ve been homeschooling, we probably come out close to $200-$400 per student per year.

Old-school homeschool moms know how to do their job well on the cheap. Here’s how it’s done:

0. Start with Why

After compiling this list, I realized that one of the most foundational reasons that we are able to homeschool on the cheap is because we have a view of education that is far bigger and broader than the promises made by curriculum providers and other teachers that would charge high dollar to be a part of our homeschool. We don’t want to replicate public school at home. We know that real-life learning is just as valuable as book learning (if not more so!). We want to prioritize family life over a ton of out-of-the-home activities. Quality literature is more important than busy work. Christian discipleship in the home is of far greater importance than the standards measured by norm-referenced tests (though by aiming at the higher thing, we’ve gotten the lesser thing thrown in, too).

Develop a mission statement for your homeschool. Dig in to biblical theology and educational philosophy so you can weight the ideas and claims floating all around you against a standard of what is truly good and right for children. If you’d like to know what that looks like for our family, check out these articles on Why We Homeschool and How We Homeschool.

Curriculum resources are tools to help you educate your children. They are not the substance nor the goal of education. Arm yourself by thinking things through before you go shopping.

Ok, now for that Top Ten list!

1. Pass on Pricey Tech

Let’s just start with a statement that might be controversial (but it shouldn’t be): You don’t need much more than books, paper, and pencils to give a child an excellent education. Public schools are handing out tablets, but that won’t actually improve the quality of education for students (though it’s sure to help tech companies). Screens cannot replace books and human interaction. YOU are far more valuable to your child’s education than anything they could access on a screen.

There is literally no need for kids under age ten to be doing any school on a device or computer. The only exception to this is when you, as a parent, believe it’s an appropriate time to teach your child typing skills. And even then, it’s actually just fine for kids to share a computer. Taking turns is a life skill, after all.

If YOU have a device/computer and access to a printer for your needs as an adult and for printing off any worksheets or online resources you may use, then you have all the tech you need. Don’t cave to the pressure that your kids are missing out if they don’t have their own personal tech devices—for school or any other purpose. This is actually where frugality wins big—you will be giving your child a childhood free from screen addiction. That alone will bolster their ability to learn and grow academically and in pretty much every other way as well.

2. Borrow What You Can / Find Books for Free

From lesson books to literature to science kits and more, you may have way more opportunities to borrow what you need than you now realize. Ask around to swap these items with friends—you can even arrange to swap teaching particular skills or in-person lessons. This year, one of my sons is using another family’s Arkansas history textbook since the other family doesn’t have a student who needs it this year.

Long-time homeschoolers love their local libraries, so don’t underestimate them. And don’t forget that if your public library doesn’t have a title that you need, you can request the title via InterLibrary Loan.
But also remember that we are by no means limited to the public library. My local homeschool support group has a well-stocked library full of carefully curated books, curriculum, DVDs, and more—all items that can be checked out for an entire school year, if needed.

There’s a university in my town, as well. Residents can get a library card—it’s not just for college students! I have found that the children’s / education section of this library has a different if not better collection of classic children’s books than the public library.

You can find free books online, as well. Check out ebooks and audiobooks using Libby, an app that works through your public library system.

Librivox.org is a great resource for free audiobooks on titles that are in the public domain. You can listen online, in the app, or download the mp3 files. Librivox has supplied us with good listening on many family road trips! Check out Pinocchio by Carlo Collodi.

Gutenberg.org similarly has free ebooks available online. Public domain and hard-to-find-in-print books can be found here.

3. Buy Used / Scratch-and-Dent / Big Sales

Old-school homeschoolers know that a well-curated home library is one of the greatest assets to a successful homeschool. And they know how to build that asset over time. A 25 cent book here, a $2 book there. Don’t be afraid to dig through bargain bins and garage sale boxes and dusty used bookstore shelves to find gold. Don’t know what books to look for? There are great book lists available in book form or online to help you know when you’ve found a good one: Honey for a Child’s Heart, Read for the Heart, at the back of this incredibly helpful book on Christian homeschooling: Educating the WholeHearted Child; AmblesideOnline’s free curriculum is a treasure trove of resources and book lists by year, and here’s a private classical Christian school’s literature list for elementary. Any of those can get you more than started.

Be sure to take advantage of any local homeschool used book sales in your area or region. While online shopping may feel convenient, in-person used book sales give you the opportunity to flip through the curriculum items and books before you purchase them, and you may even be able to ask other homeschool parents what they think about different programs right there on the spot. Making real-life connections with others on this homeschool journey is a blessing, so run to these in-person opportunities rather than away from them.

There are, of course, many ways to find used books and curriculum resources online: HomeschoolClassifieds.com, Facebook Marketplace, scratch-and-dent options at your favorite book sellers or curriculum companies, and shopping for used items at Amazon.com, to name a few.

4. Reuse Curriculum Books and Resources with Younger Children

Do you have more than one child in the home? The cost of homeschooling your first child does not have to be doubled by adding another student! Nearly all of your materials can be reused down through the whole family if you are strategic about the types of resources you purchase and how you use them.

Purchase quality, classic books that will stand the test of time and hold up against wear and tear. Classic children’s literature isn’t tied to movies or fads. And the best books for girls are good stories for boys, too, and vice versa. Don’t fill your shelves or drain your bank account for books that don’t have staying power.

Avoid consumable texts. Worksheets and workbooks can be a blessing where they fit best for you and your children, but you will save money by either limiting their use or using them in non-consumable ways. You can have your children write their work and/or answers on a separate piece of paper instead of writing in a workbook. Another clever option that we used for math facts practice was to put math sheets inside of page protectors and have the kids write their answers with dry-erase markers. Once mom checks the work, it gets erased. And the page is ready for tomorrow or the next day or for the next student in two years.

At times it may feel more painful to have your child copy from the book and write a heading and problem numbers and answers out on their own sheet of paper. But kids eventually get over whining about these things if you are consistent about requiring them. And having kids that don’t whine about writing basic information on a sheet of paper is an asset to their character in the long run. Again, the habits formed by frugality can be a blessing to your homeschool rather than a liability.

5. DIY Do It Yourself

Back in the day, the really old school homeschool moms HAD to do a lot more of their own lesson planning. My mother-in-law made her own worksheets, crossword puzzles, mazes, and quizzes for my husband and his siblings!

I’ve done a little bit of the same at times for our homeschool. My kids participate in the spelling bee (we have never done a purchased spelling curriculum!), and I would write silly sentences using words from their list. This made for entertaining copy work for my elementary kiddos.

Lots of copy work for early elementary can either be simply written out by hand or made online. (Here’s one example of a handwriting practice sheet generator!)

Your growth as a mother-teacher can enable you to save money in your homeschool. Learn to teach basic skills without curriculum or with the most efficient and cost-effective curriculum. (Some simple curriculum items: 100 Easy Lessons for phonics/reading, Our Mother Tongue for middle to high school grammar in just one book.) Language arts can be taught simply by reading aloud (both to the child and having them read aloud to you), copying a paragraph from the book, gently correcting any errors and explaining the basic grammar of an example sentence, memorizing a poem or passage of scripture, etc. It may be hard to believe, but workbooks and textbooks aren’t really necessary.

6. Make the Most of Local Community

I cannot stress enough how important it is to connect with other like-minded homeschool families. It doesn’t have to be a co-op, and especially not an expensive academically-focused one. Building relationships with other families on this journey provides more than just resources—it provides encouragement and shared wisdom.

My family has been a part of an old-school homeschool support group for eleven years. It currently costs $70 per year for the whole family to join, and that includes access to a homeschool library.

I also organize an old-school, moms-pitch-in Co-op. We enjoy enriching lessons and activities but most of all a close-knit fellowship. No one pays a dime to join.

There may be other clubs or organizations in your area that can enhance your homeschool for free or at a reasonable cost. Don’t forget about other community events and activities. State parks often have free or low cost guided nature tours. And of course self-guided nature walks are a free and long-time staple of homeschooling.

7. Leverage Rewards Programs

Use credit card rewards points (if you can use CC’s responsibly) for homeschool purchases. I rarely buy new books without using points. This is another great way to build that home library. You can also see if your favorite vendors or websites have their own rewards programs to take advantage of.

8. Enlist Extended Family

Ask grandparents or other interested relatives to forgo unhelpful toys and candy and instead buy birthday and Christmas gifts that enrich their grandkids’ education (open-play toys or building sets, bird feeding/watching supplies, music lessons, instruments, helpful DVDs, quality literature, intelligent board/strategy games, etc). And don’t forget that extended family members may have hobbies and skills and stories they can share—family time is formative. Building these relationships is more important that just adding on another costly activity with strangers.

9. Free Online Curriculum

There are an incredible amount of free online resources if you’re really low on cash: Kahn Academy, many great channels on YouTube, EasyPeasy Homeschool, Freedom Homeschooling, and probably many, many more. [Updated to add this great free resource list from Nicki Truesdell.]

From my friend: “I don’t use very many online resources at all, but I do like lizardpoint.com for geography quizzes.”

My family has enjoyed Prodigies Music lessons (It’s pricey now. I got in on the lifetime deal early when it was very inexpensive—there’s another tip: get in on a start-up). But there are also free solfa music lessons that some of my friends have enjoyed. One year we purchased an online Spanish lesson subscription (we got it for half off with a Black Friday deal). In my experience, language lessons and music are some of the best candidates for online learning, just keep in mind that there are free versions of those things—you don’t have to purchase anything if you do some digging on YouTube. Just keep “auto play” turned off and don’t leave your kiddos alone with the internet. Our kids don’t watch anything online by themselves. It’s just not a habit worth building.

10. Pray and Practice Christian Contentment

This tip really isn’t a last resort. It ought to flow through and undergird all of the tips on this list.

The Lord cares for you and your children. Do you believe this? Enough to trust Him that your loaves and fishes will be enough? It’s tempting to look at all the shiny curriculum and fancy courses available to homeschoolers these days and imagine that we are missing out.

We have so much available to us today, it really is amazing! But it doesn’t mean that we need all of these things in order to homeschool well! Don’t let curriculum marketing prey upon your mother-teacher insecurities, promising to fill your lack of experience with their expert teachers, scripted lessons, convenient this-and-that, and blah blah blah. You’ll get the experience simply by teaching your child. So the best thing to do is simply start.

Don’t let Instagram images and curriculum ads get to you. If you are willing to learn alongside (and sometimes just ahead of) your children, you will do well. If you trust in the Lord to provide for you and your children, and if you are committed to walking in His ways and guiding them to do the same, you will do well. Don’t forget why you took on this homeschool gig to begin with. The curriculum resources are simply tools to help you accomplish something way bigger. Don’t let them steal the show or make you feel inferior if you can’t have the shiniest program. You don’t need it. You really don’t.

You can do this. Bring your own skills and creativity and passion to the work of homeschooling, and you will bless your family in unique ways that no curriculum could have done for you.

For further inspiration, check out this recent Scholé Sisters podcast episode: Death of the Scrappy Homeschooler.

If putting these tips into practice isn’t enough to make it possible to homeschool…

Get Help: If you and your family are in dire straights, talk to the leadership of your local church to prayerfully consider sponsoring your family through a tough time. And check out HSLDA Compassion—they exist to help homeschool families in need to be able to continue to homeschool in the aftermath of devastating events.

If you are in good financial shape, would you consider giving to HSLDA Compassion? Or talk to your church leadership about how you can give to help families in your fellowship who are already willing to sacrifice to give their children a Christian education…but it simply isn’t adding up right now.

God’s people are equipped to love and support one another in raising up the next generation in the ways of the Lord. This is a noble goal to prayerfully pursue.

Well, that’s it for my top ten tips for homeschooling on a tight budget!

Do you have any other tips for frugal homeschooling? How do you save money on your child’s education?

Demystifying “School Choice” Terminology

28 Tuesday Jan 2025

Posted by Lauren Scott in Home Education

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It’s always a good idea to define terms at the outset of a public policy conversation. Unfortunately, that’s a rule not often followed.

Words are powerful, friends. They can powerfully inform, they can powerfully persuade, and they can powerfully mask reality, glossing it over with feel-good buzz words to garner our support or acceptance. “School Choice” is no different.

“Choice”

“Savings”

“Freedom”

Aren’t you ready to sign up when you hear those words?

But here’s the truth:

“School Choice”

“School Choice” is really about funding.

Now, some may object that “school choice” means the ability to choose which public school or public charter school to send your child to, even when those schools are outside of the district in which you live. And to that I say, yes. That’s a good use of the term “school choice.” But that’s not the “school choice” movement that’s sweeping state legislatures as I type.

You might also say that “school choice” just means the freedom or ability of parents to choose options other than public school. And I would say that’s another accurate use of the term. But the reality is that in all 50 states parents may ALREADY choose to pursue the private education of their choice and which fits their budget and priorities.

So when politicians are promoting “school choice” programs these days, they’re offering something other than the freedom to choose. They’re offering public funding for private education.

“Education Savings Accounts”

“Education Savings Accounts” may be the fastest-growing form of “school choice” among governors and state legislators today (I’m looking at you, AZ, AR, FL, IA, IN, MS, NH, SC, TN, [TX,] UT, WV). But they aren’t savings accounts at all.

You don’t put your money in them. You don’t get money from them. They’re funded by the government with money that travels through your hands and into vendor/provider hands. ESAs are really Education Subsidy Accounts.

“Education Freedom Accounts”

The cleverly-named “Education Freedom Accounts” in my home state of Arkansas (and New Hampshire) work the same way. They’re really Education Funding Accounts. And yes, you actually trade freedom for those funds.

There’s no such thing as free lunch. You pay for that money with decreased privacy, increased regulation, and psuedo-choice on the “approved vendors” market.

I suppose I could have also taken a shot at the fact that politicians promoting “school choice” programs like to tell us that their initiatives are pro- “free market.” But in reality, they’re pro- public-private partnerships, luring both buyers and sellers into a government-monitored and government-regulated market. A once-free market will be free no more. But teasing out market impacts is a task for another day.

The Bottom Line:

You already have the CHOICE. You are already FREE. The question is who funds your child’s education? And what freedom are you willing to trade for state funding?

That’s a trade I’m not willing to make.

It’s National School Choice Week, and I’m beginning to release the findings of my 7-month deep dive on this subject. Be sure to subscribe here on the blog and follow me on Facebook and Instagram so you can stay informed and share this important information with others (starting with this blog post? 😉 ). The freedom of private and home education is at stake. Multiple state legislatures are in session debating this issue RIGHT NOW. Thank you for helping me to get the word out.

Follow Through v. Follow-Through

Looking Back, Bringing Forward, Following Through

Bible Verses on Follow-Through

Fix Your Eyes and Follow Through

But Our Words Can Make or Break Our Service

A High Calling

Gossip

Searching Our Hearts

Gracious Words Build Up Children

Gracious Words Build Up Husbands

Getting Dressed in … Good Works

What Good Works?

Good Works Go Both Ways

Good Works, Different Seasons

But Rather By Means of Good Works

What Godly Wisdom Is and Does

Only Two Options

Five Habits of a Wise Woman

The Great Recognition:

Bringing It Home

Top Five Books Read in 2024

Books I read on Home Management:

Books I read on Leadership/Life Management:

Books I read on Government:

Books I read on Biblical Studies/Counseling:

Literature/Fiction Books I read:

Magazines:

0. Start with Why

1. Pass on Pricey Tech

2. Borrow What You Can / Find Books for Free

3. Buy Used / Scratch-and-Dent / Big Sales

4. Reuse Curriculum Books and Resources with Younger Children

5. DIY Do It Yourself

6. Make the Most of Local Community

7. Leverage Rewards Programs

8. Enlist Extended Family

9. Free Online Curriculum

10. Pray and Practice Christian Contentment

“School Choice”

“Education Savings Accounts”

“Education Freedom Accounts”

The Bottom Line: